Nobody's Perfect--Flip Flop on Annoyances

The best way to deepen your love for each other is to give the one you love a "pass". If they do those little annoying things, just think it's cute. Look for the silver lining rather than the critical view.

Try rationalization games. Try not to think of him as messy, just think how uncomfortable life would be if he was a controlling neat freak and perfectionist.

Don't complain about his shortcomings with your friends. It tends to put you in a negative mindset and he may be suspicious of their "funny looks."