6 Ways to Ruin a Relationship

1- Checking into their massages and e-mails. Some have steamed open their mates mail.
2- Lying.The rock solid foundation of any good relationship is telling the truth. If you are caught in a lie, you'll lose credibility and no relationship can survive loss of trust.
3- Snooping. Checking into their drawers, looking at their records, their diary, their wallet, etc.
4- Become a private investigator. Trying to catch them"in the act."Following them to their place of work, their gym, their home( if you live apart), to see if they arrive or leave with an attractive stranger. If you get caught spying, they no longer will trust you. Is it worth the risk?
5- Sending others to check them out. A person your mate doesn't know can snoop undetected. Listening to them in a public place like a bar or restaurant.That person then has "something" on you. It's like sharing a secret. The only safe secret is one only you know.
6- Constantly checking up on them with paranoid or obsessive behavior. Calling regularly to "check in" is fine but calling incessantly will drive them away. It's controlling and lacking in trust.

No matter how much love exists in your relationship, it cannot survive without trust.

Why Men Don't Propose

1- Men don't hear the clock ticking the way women do. Not only the relationship clock but the biological clock.
2- Men dread the "BIG' Day. Just the way BIG panicked in the movie version of Sex in the City, many men can't handle the three ring circus surrounding the big event. All the details to deal with, all the pressure from her side of the family, all the kidding from his friends become over whelming.
3- The desire to be more prepared. Many men ask themselves, "Am I really ready to do this now?" They think that if they can wait a few more months (or years) they'll REALLY be sure and ready to commit.
4- They fear the proposal moment. What if she says no? Should I do it at the ball park or at a public event? If I do it the old fashioned way she'll think I'm not very creative.

Gals, if he hasn't yet proposed and you think it's time, then propose yourself. It's unique, but it's been done before. It will generate lots of dialogue no matter what his answer may be.

Seniors Looking for Love and Relationships

Now that people are living longer, changing attitudes, and the ease of finding love online, more senior citizens are dating than ever before. Older Americans, in fact, are now the fastest-growing group of couples living together out of wedlock; of the 10.5 million cohabiting couples in 2006, more than 17 percent were over 50, compared with 13.2 percent just six years ago. "It's like I'm a kid," said a local widow, 85, who has been dating an 83 year old widower. "When I'm with him, I'm caring for him, and when I'm not with him, I'm thinking about him."
A recent issue of AARP the magazine, quoted Jack Nicholson who said, and I'm paraphrasing, "I guess I'm like most seniors, I'm looking for that one last great love."