How to Ace Your First Date

1-Dress Appropriately. What you wear depends where you go, but also consider that you can only make one first impression.
2-Think about where to go. I used to think a movie is the wrong place for a first date since it's "getting to know you time." But if you have dinner first, go to a movie, then go some place else for dessert to discuss the film, you won't have to do hours of talking.
3-Avoid too much information. You don't have to tell your entire life story the first time you meet. Save some for later dates.
4-Listen. It's really an art to listen (and hear) well. Ask open ended questions so you won't have to deal with a one word answer. Don't ask "Do you like museums?" better to ask, what do you like to do when you visit the museum?
5-Mind your manners.Don't get drunk. Use please, thank you, and if appropriate, use I'm sorry. Good manners are the confirmation of a good first impression.

Nobody's Perfect--Flip Flop on Annoyances

The best way to deepen your love for each other is to give the one you love a "pass". If they do those little annoying things, just think it's cute. Look for the silver lining rather than the critical view.

Try rationalization games. Try not to think of him as messy, just think how uncomfortable life would be if he was a controlling neat freak and perfectionist.

Don't complain about his shortcomings with your friends. It tends to put you in a negative mindset and he may be suspicious of their "funny looks."

5 Mistakes Women Make Meeting Guys

1- Need change of venue. Go to new places. Break the same place habit. Odds are in your favor.
2- Not friendly or approachable. Network, he may have better looking friends.
3- Don't hang in big groups. A herd makes you unapproachable. Not many men are willing to break into a large group of women and focus on just one. Too much chatter and wagging tongues.
4- Refuses to be set up. Make sure the setter upper knows you and your tastes then go for it.
5- Too uptight. Men can sense desperation. Try to develop a self-confident laid back vibe.

Meet Tons of Women Anytime, Anywhere

You don't have to meet women only in bars, clubs or even on line. You can do it anywhere. That's right. Just follow the 3 simple rules and you can find a great date at Starbucks, bookstores, the Supermarket, gyms, malls, museums or just about anywhere. Just avoid these mistakes most men make:
1-Don't ask permission. Be assertive. Don't ask "Would you like to go see a movie sometime?" Say instead "Let's go see a movie together." Don't be a wimp. Be confident
2-Don't think about becoming a friend first. Let her know that there is a sexual attraction
3-Don't waste lot's of time in bars and clubs. Statistics show that over 90% of women prefer to meet a man away from the loud, drunk, hectic, dark, nightlife. Lot at my list above and concentrate on the basics. Smile approach her calmly and say Hi. The rest is up to you. Be natural, be yourself, don't over compliment her , start a conversation appropriate to the location where you meet. What do you think of that artist? or what's your favorite cut of meat? Natural, normal conversation should flow easily from there and poof..you've got a great date.

Free Dating Success Story for Middle Age Woman

By free I mean this ad was posted on Craigs list under personals and on the free social networking sites.
This lady posted a nice photo of herself and added the following comments:

"I'm fun loving and adventurous. My friends are couples and I have no one to accompany me to functions. Not looking for anything serious. "

She got lots of responses and found the companion of her dreams with this simple yet effective free ad.

More Don't Do's on First Date

1- Badmouth ex..not cool, don't even discuss your ex unless asked directly to do so.
2- No Cell....for accepting calls, making calls or texting. It's very rude.
3- Drink too much. You'll get stupid, sloppy and obnoxious.
4- Not Nice...to wait staff, valets and any one else. Never mess with someone who feeds you.
5- Don't valet. Too cheap? or nobody should touch your "baby."
6- Lobster and Steak? Don't order the most expensive thing(s) on menu unless you're paying.
7- No Nose stuff...No blowing, picking, or picking teeth. Go to bathroom.
8- Don't "Dutch" it... even if she offers, you asked her out, be a gentleman and pay.

5 Secrets to Keep from Your Partner

Truth is usually good, however too much sharing can be questionable. Use a little discretion and don't reveal that:
1- You don't turn me on all the time. Compliment what you like and ignore what you hate.
2- I flirt with other people at work..almost half of the men and women I know lust after a co-worker. If you must confess attraction to others talk about celebrities not people you work with or both know.
3- I can't stand your friends. Try hard to keep it to yourself. Cutting out his friends is usually a deal breaker.
4- I still think about my ex. Keep your past in your past. Nothing good can come from it.
5- Don't say "I can't live without you" frequently. It will make your partner feel trapped and they'll want to escape.

Unique Ideas for a First Date

The whole idea for a first date is a song from that fabulous Broadway classic "The King and I". It's called "getting to know you." So try to be different. Anybody can decide to go to a restaurant. If it's a quiet place with romantic lighting it would be a nice place to get to know your date. However if it's crowded, noisy, and not comfortable for effective conversation then think of an alternative.
Is there a carnival in the area? How about miniature golf or bowling? What about a lite dinner followed by a walk in the mall or a local park. You are looking to have fun and a place to talk.
A movie gives you an opportunity to rub shoulders and perhaps even elbows but does that help the getting to know you goal?
So put on your thinking cap, and try to come up with a suggestion that demonstrates your creativity.
Getting to know all about you,
getting to like you,
getting to know you like me.

Dating Services Facing Increasing Competition

Online dating service websites are facing ever increasing pressure from social networking sites.
The surge in popularity of sites such as MySpace and Facebook have drawn some attention from dating websites.

People have a finite amount of leisure time and they're splitting up their time between the social networking sites and dating sites.

The dating sites have this new competition in addition to many new dating sites, but the large one are thriving. Match.com claims to have doubled their revenues for the past year.

A relatively new site called plentyoffish.com debuted in 2003 and has surged to the top spot in the U.S. market.

Serious Secrets to Tell Your Partner

Honesty is the best policy. Good! Now we have that truism out of the way, let's deal with reality.
Here are four things that I think you must discuss with your partner. It will help clear the air if and when they turn up.
1-I've got issues. Here are a few things your partner should be aware of before you take your relationship any further; drug problem, prison record, unknown baggage (marriages, kids), loss of job, significant debt, feelings about religion, political leanings, addictions and medical problems
2-Somebody like me...a lot. Yes, I'm being seriously pursued by a potential crazy person.
3-I want more. Our relationship has gotten boring. I really need you to spend more time with me and romance me the way you did when we first met.
4-Oooooh that feels good. Over 50% of people in a relationship don't discuss what they like in bed. They assume their partner knows but is either not interested or doesn't care. Here's how to solve it..on a long car trip, discuss the situation. There will be no immediate need to perform then and there. Don't let it simmer. If you're unhappy, talk about it.

3 Steps to Make Someone Fall in Love With You

To make someone fall in love with you requires the conscious effort from both partners. There should be an understanding regarding their emotions, behavior, and physical attraction. How to get started:
1- Communicate well. Both parties need to relay their state of mind as well as actions in easily understood conversations. Before romance, you have to listen and hear them first.
2- Understand each other.You have to listen well to truly understand each others interests and needs. You must demonstrate in both words and actions that you will be there for them.
3- Develop physical attraction. True love is a combination of physical, emotional, and mental attraction. So both of you have to work on developing the physical attraction that binds people to each other. Touch , kiss, caress, and be affectionate often. They will learn to trust you when you open yourself to them; show them who you really are and they will open themselves to you.

Dating, Romance, and Relationships

I'm still going on bad dates, when by now i should be in a bed marriage...Laura Kighlinger
What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night? The only difference is that in not many job interviews is there a chance you'll wind up naked...Jerry Seinfeld
I went out to dinner with a marine. He looked across the table and he goes, " I could kill you in seven seconds." I go, " I'll just have toast then."...Margaret Smith
How many of you ever stated dating someone because you were too lazy to commit suicide?...Judy Tenuda
I don't get no respect. A girl phoned me and said, "come on over, no body's home." I went over. Nobody was home...Rodney Dangerfield
I have bad luck with women. I was on the phone with a woman I was dating, "I have to go, there is a telemarketer on the other line."

Quotes on Love, Loss and Divorce

Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is...Iris Murdoch
All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with someone else...Mae West
In our family we don't divorce our men--we bury them...Ruth Gordon
Ah yes, divorce, from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet...Robin Williams
It was partially my fault that we got divorced. I tended to place my wife under a pedestal...Woody Allen
Love is so short, forgetting is so long...Pablo Neruda
If the Christian Conservatives really want to protect marriage they should propose a constitutional amendment to ban divorce. The murder rate would go up, but the institution of marriage would be strong and healthy...Wanda Sykes
I'm not upset about my divorce. I'm only upset I'm not a widow...Roseanne Barr
My husband and I had a very messy divorce because there was a baby involved. Him. And I didn't want custody...Wendy Liebman

Some Men Who are Wired to Cheat

Forty percent of men have a gene that makes them more likely to cheat, says a new study. All men have a gene that regulates vasopressin, a hormone that helps people form bonds with one another. Swedish researchers have found a variant in the gene which reduces his inclination to bond, and increases the likelihood that he will cheat. These men were less likely to be married and those that were, reported a higher percentage of marital problems. Since 40 % of men have the cheater gene, should women be testing their current and future husbands' DNA?
Some men may overcome the influence of their genes, but only of they make a conscious effort to do so. So ladies, be aware, and hold off starting a joint bank account for few years.

3 Things You Need to Keep a Man

Many articles and books are written about how to attract and KEEP a man. It's simple as 1-2-3.
Here's how:
1- Intellectual Attraction- That old adage of a rich old man looking for a busty blond bimbo to be on his arm to love, honor and obey is pure fantasy and doesn't exist in the real world. The men that I know want a woman with whom they can discuss the news of the day, watch Jeopardy together, discuss politics, and look to as a partner and equal.
2-Emotional Fitness. Physical fitness is important but so is mental health. Most men prefer a woman who is not a whiner, nag, complainer, gossiper, cry-baby, drinker, or drama queen.
3-Wave Length Compatibility. You must be on the same wave length. Although occasionally opposites actually do attract on a few levels, unless you're on the same wave length physically, emotionally, spiritually and morally you're in for a rocky road.

Here's another of the big three for self confidence and success; Peace, Power and Integrity.

Where are those Dates from Hell?

I have a chapter in my book called Dates from Hell. They are submissions from friends and fans who wanted to share their most unique, horrifying, astounding, and weird dates.
It's time to add to the collection. I'm planning a new book aptly named Dates from Hell that will include the best of your submissions. So get your thinking caps on, network with your friends and send me you stories. I'll just need your real name and address plus your e-mail address. I will never reveal who you are, other than signing the story "Amy from Ames, Ia."
The winners get printed in my book and you will get an autographed first edition of the book free of charge.
Thank you.

Beauty Secrets of the Stars

Here is a listing of celebrities and some of their favorite beauty secrets that was compiled from various sources:
Jessica Alba/Hillary Duff-Use a refrigerated spray bottle of mint tea to cool the skin and stimulate blood flow.
Teri Hatcher-Teri pours her leftover red wine into her bath. It is supposed to make the skin surface firm, improve elasticity and stimulate cell multiplication.
Jennifer Jason Leigh- Makes her fine hair look thicker by using dry shampoos.
Sarah Jessica Parker- To correct that shiny feeling when out in public, excuse yourself and visit the ladies room. Use one of those tissue toilet seat covers and dab a piece over your T-zone (chin, nose and forehead). The tissue is a great quickie blotter like one's at the cosmetic counter.
Queen Latifah- Use baking soda as an exfoliant. It's very gentle and works very well.
Jennifer Lopez-Use sun-screen every day and mix honey into masks, facials and moisturizers.
Catherine Zeta-Jones-Bushes her teeth with mashed up strawberries mixed with baking soda. She also keeps her hair shiny by combing Castor oil in it.

Problem Areas Women Display

I know I've been wordy on many of my previous blogs. Let's try for a change of pace. I'm going to list 5 important areas that women have to resolve or else the relationship is vulnerable.
1-Insecure
2-Drama Queen
3-Baggage
4-Needy
5-Not good in bed
Any suggestions? Let's hear from you and you can add to the list.

Don't Worry Be Happy..5 Things to Make You Happy

1-Life is too short to associate with losers. Surround yourself with up, fun, funny, bright, caring, and sensitive people. It's tough to rid yourself of hanger-ons that suck the joy out of your life, but you must make a decision for YOU, not them. Losers drag you down.
2-Don't play the conjecture game. Remove "what if" from your vocabulary.
3-Always strive towards excellence using your talents and potential. Get in the "zone" and enjoy.
4-Allow yourself to be happy. Some people feel down deep that it is wrong to be happy. Whether its religion, culture or family values that have taught us to feel guilty if we're too happy, try to escape from those negative feelings.
5-Schedule your life to do enjoyable things. Make a list and get rid of the "work" things first, then you're free to concentrate on the fun stuff. If you don't get rid of the necessary unpleasant chores you'll be thinking of eventually having to do them and you'll drag yourself down. Romance yourself just as if you were doing it to and for someone you love. Love yourself and concentrate on those things that make you happy.

5 More Ways to Keep Her Happy.

1-Be touchy. Non sexual touching is a super endorsement of another persons soul.
2-Accept her as she is. Be very selective when you try to change her or "fix" her behavior. Once she feels that any corrective criticism is not threatening to her or will end the relationship, she's accept them.
3-She wants you to act like you adore her and are close to her. The closeness will allow her to relax and want to make love to you. Sex will make you feel closer to each other.
4-Pay attention to small household chores you can do to help. It's no big deal to do the laundry or rinse dishes and put them into the dishwasher, put the kids to sleep, help with their homework.
5-Make her feel that you recognize that your relationship is something you cherish and you want her to be your partner for life. Regularly let her know that you want a full, deep, caring, forever relationship. Treat her like a Queen and she will treat you like a King.